Couples Therapy

Our desire, and need, to be attached to another is one of our deepest human drives. It pulls and pushes us to be together, AND it can make us crazy when we don’t feel connected.  It can only take a glance, or certain kind of breath, and we feel the inner reactions of anger, disgust, fear, betrayal (to begin a list).  We humans don’t like feeling those feelings, so we react in a effort to regain control….and the dance begins…again and again.. EVERY COUPLE creates this dance. Every Relationship creates this dance.
The question is: Do you like the Dance?? If not, I am trained to help you identify the steps; trained to help you discover evidence based interventions created to change steps and I can employ evidenced based assessments to provide YOU with insight to help you CHOOSE DIFFERENT STEPS. As odd as this may sound, it is not personal!! it’s just unconscious patterns (steps) you both have been taught which you are repeating. There are new dance steps..

I truly believe our relationships are the fastest and most true path to our personal growth.

I have lived a life which informs me well of the myriad of challenges couples face. My desire to increase the quality of life for those I encounter has led me to many forms of study. Currently, I incorporate the work of John Gottman (I am level 2 certified) and Sue Johnson (Emotional Focused Couples Therapy, I hold a 6-wk study w/Dr. Johnson certification). I always incorporate Positive Psychology, CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), REBT (Rational Emotive Behavioral Theraly) as well as evidenced based Behavioral science.
I always focus on building up the individual within a couple. As the individual gets better so does the couple. The truth is we are two individuals who are choosing  to live as one. As simple as that sounds, the truth is, often this takes real work, AND THIS IS NORMAL. I really want you to know very few of us were shown, or taught,  effective ways to communicate or interact with our intimate partners.  The complete Joy, for me, and for couples, is when this work of growing as a person can be incorporated into the couple dynamic. THEN, the true joy of being a couple is realized!! I help you, you help me, WE GET BETTER!!! This is WHY we come together.. I want you to experience and live the joy intended for us.!!